Kind of a weird title I know, but I couldnt find a good way to word what I wanted in such a small space.
How do you all handle it when a neighbor or friend says "Hey, so and so is going to be here tomorrow and Id like to bring them by so I can show them your tractor"?
Maybe Im alone in that "problem."
My neighbor, who is a great guy, has done this a couple times. First time was just my garage, then my saws, now the tractor.
Im a fairly private person, and not too trusting of people I dont know. I wont get into why, other than to say that I wasnt always this way, but life and work has made me take a harder look at who I allow near me and my family and our home.
Anyway, Im just wondering how best to handle it without pissing off my neighbor. In this case, and the previous ones, its his brother. Ive met him before and to be honest dont care much for him. Brags a lot, and doesnt take too much care with other peoples things, and not the brightest crayon in the box. The one time I let him use my saw when we were cutting up a couple trees wed just dropped for my neighbor, he ran the chain right into the ground on the second cut, then twice more before I told him he was done. My neighbor helps me with stuff and I help him with quite a bit of stuff, so being angry about much of anything isnt very productive.
Now, I dont care that he knows I have it, Im just not a fan of having people over here looking at my stuff.
I guess I figure he can see it all he wants when hes over here helping do some work, otherwise, Ive got other stuff to do.
Sure I could say I wont be home, but while there is a good bit of woods between us, you can still make out my garage and vehicles from his place, and Im not big on lying to people either.
Id much rather just tell him that I dont appreciate him doing that to me, but saying it and coming across as not being a jerk are two different things. Im a fairly direct person anyway, so I have a hard enough time not coming off like that when Im not trying to tip toe around something.