It has been nearly a year (by three days) since I have visited this site. I was surprised it has been this long.
It started as a fast. I gave up all social media site with a minor exception of FaceBook. That I would log in just long enough to check the messages. I have a few people who think that is a good way to contact me regards work or looking for my mom to real estate needs. Other than that, blackout.
Some people fast by food items, I decided to go dark in the social media world. Reason?, my stepson. He has struggled with alcohol for serval years. It finally came to a point that something had to be done. So I fasted looking for answers from God on a solution to this problem. Long story short, we found him a place that ended up waving the usually $25K price. Problem, it was only a month program. Not saying that isn't enough, or that people can stop cold turkey on their own, we all know stories of success like that. However, that was not our results. Slowly the drinking returned. No more high powered craft beer this time. The boy turned to spiced rum. Instead of a happy drunk that just drank till he dropped in a pile wherever in the house (or yard), this stuff made him mean. Luckily he never drove. And he didn't get physical, but maybe worse. He spoke harshly to his wife in front of the kids. She being a nurse in a recovery unit often on call, never could trust him to stay sober with the kids. Loss of a job recently due to not studying hard enough for the pop breathalyzer test only made him stay drunk pretty much 24/7. So he was sneaking out of the house to go to the store about a mile up the road. Taking a pistol to his head in front of my 7 year old granddaughter when his wife threatened to kick him out really upset me. He wanted attention and to be the victim. To his wife's credit, she did not give in to his threat.
Finally he called us for help. He admitted he was in trouble. He needed to get clean. So last week, we took him to a detox place for a week then off to a home for another three weeks of treatment. After that, well we do not know yet. We are looking at serval year long programs. We want him far enough away that the separation will help him focus on him and deal with the demons that are the cause of his reliance on alcohol. He is a good kid with lots of potential being wasted away with his dependancy. I hope this time we can have a success story. It may be a year for I can say for sure.
So today I took the grandkids to Detroit to the DNR Outdoor Adventure Center. Every year we take them somewhere for my January Birthday and treat them to gifts, food, and place to play. This time without the boy and his wife who had to stay home due to being on call. We are trying to return calm and peace to the kids world after such a volatile year. For the granddaughter, she remembers the other daddy. Before the alcohol. My three year grandson sadly does not.
I never judge those who have addictions. I have seen it too often no matter what it is. I just pray for them and thank God I do not have those problems.
So I will try to be around here more often. I really need some good laughs and read things that make me smile.