My girls are four years apart in age. It took the youngest mastering her bike to spur the older one to try no training wheels on hers. She spent all day in the front yard (claimed grass was softer) learning to ride. By the end of the day she could do it, but it took the possibility of little sister out doing her to motivate her to try and succeed.My little buddy who lives next door will be 8 years old in October. His parents are really great people and they have a wonderful family. This couple has two sons, the one who is now 7 years old and they had another son who was born last November.
My little friend, who's first name is very different (It's an Indian name) but I will refer to him as "K", is extremely smart and he is constantly full of questions. He builds incredible Lego projects and actually won a contest this year in Chicago in the 12 year old age category because he was bored with the projects for the younger kids (like himself).
He has been extremely reluctant to ride his bike without training wheels and I helped him by raising the seat on his bike and making sure the pedal reach was right when he was riding his bike. It's a lot harder to remain balanced when the seat is too low, as it requires you to push downward at a strange angle to pedal verses when the seat is at the right height. But even with the equipment adjustments, he still wouldn't try without the training wheels.
His parents don't push him at all on sports or that type of activity. He is also very reluctant to participate in any sports as he fears injury. He is very concerned about physical injury from any hard contact. Well I showed him some of my scars and told him how having a scab is like a badge of honor when you are a young child. Still no progress.
The other day I was visiting the neighbors down the road when my friend "K" rode by in the vehicle with him mom on their way home. He saw me in the yard talking to these people and he waved on the way by. When I got home, "K" came over to see me and we were talking. I told him "You know the little girl down the road who is 5 years old? Well, she can ride her bike without training wheels and she is really good at it. She even has a scab on her elbow from scraping it. She didn't even cry when she scraped her arm."
I then told him "Wow, a girl who is 2 years younger rides her bike all of the time without any training wheels. She hasn't had training wheels in over a year since she was 4." I can see the gears turning in his head. Then I said, "If you want me to, I can go get her and have a 5 year old girl show you how to ride your bike without training wheels?"
I continued "Or, we can try taking your training wheels off and see what happens. I know you can ride without the wheels if you try." That pushed him past the hesitation. Guess who now rides his bike without any training wheels?